Believe Them

I feel like someone somewhere really needs to hear this, and if not.. then It's just me. I need to say it.

People show you exactly how they feel about you—you just have to be willing to see it.

If someone is “too busy” to text you back, too distracted to make time, always flaking, always ghosting, or only showing up when it’s convenient—it’s because you’re not a priority to them. Period.

It’s not that they forgot. It’s not that they’re bad at communication. It’s not that they’re overwhelmed. It’s that they don’t want to. Because when people want to see you, they make it happen. When they care, they show it. No one is too busy for someone they genuinely value.

And the more you try to rationalize it—“maybe they’re stressed,” “maybe they’ll change,” “maybe I’m expecting too much”—the more you gaslight yourself into accepting crumbs.

If she says she’s in it for love—but she avoids commitment, pushes you away, or keeps things stuck—then love probably isn’t what she’s really after.

More often than not, it’s something else.

Maybe it’s the money. Maybe it’s sex. Maybe it’s the comfort, the lifestyle, the way you make her feel secure. But it’s not love.

Because if it was really love, her actions would align with that.

Love doesn’t run from intimacy. It doesn’t make you question where you stand. It doesn’t disappear when things get real. Real love moves with intention—and you’ll feel that. No confusion, no games.

Everyone has a motive. That doesn’t automatically make it an evil motive. But we only do things if we have a reason. Be real with yourself: does her behavior match her words? If she says she’s all in but constantly acts like she’s halfway out, then her true motive is something she’s not telling you. And it’s probably got nothing to do with love. That's just what they would like you to believe.

Also;

If you want to see someone’s truth, watch them when they’re down. When they’re not getting their way. When they are stressed or down. When the benefits dry up. That’s when the mask slips—and that’s when you need to pay attention.

Because people can fake love. They can fake loyalty. They can fake connection. But not forever.

Eventually, who they really are comes out.

When it does—believe it.

Then let that shit go!!

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