Pimps

Pimps are one of many looking to take advantage of providers who don’t know their worth. If you ask a pimp, he’ll probably say he can teach me the game. I’d ask him, “Which one?”

If the game is seeing as many clients as possible and making as much money in a day okay.. umm —maybe. But this business is much more than that. Much more.

I sometimes feel bad for women in the industry who think they need a man to protect them. They think they need a man to manage them, to screen clients for them. That couldn’t be further from the truth. What they don’t see is that pimps mess up their business more than anything.

I could never give a man my hard-earned money. Never in a million years.

Over the years on Private Delights, I’ve had many pimps contact me. It usually starts like this:

Beautiful pictures. You’re really something else. I bet you’re making killer money. I’m doing big things and I’ve been looking for a woman like you. Would you like to go have a drink? I have some business opportunities and I think you’d be perfect.

I always cut them off. My time is money—and it will never be his.

I understand how this setup may work for some. But what they don’t see is that pimps bring no real value to me, or to any provider, unless your standards are a box of rocks.

Clients don’t like being involved with providers who have pimps. There’s drama. The provider is often worked up before the appointment, which is never good for business. Many of these women are strung out, unhappy, lost, and barely getting by. They don’t respect themselves—so how could they truly respect the client?

If I were giving my hard-earned money to a provider for her time, I’d want to feel respected and valued. But when a provider has a pimp, she’s operating in a fast-moving atmosphere centered on taking advantage of “tricks.” It’s about money and busting dates—seeing as many clients as humanly possible.

The way pimps control providers is usually through coercion, power plays, manipulation, drugs, and abuse. When a provider isn’t doing this because she genuinely loves what she’s doing—when she doesn’t have 100% control over who she sees—it shows.

She won’t show up as her authentic self. And that takes away from the experience for the client. She’ll be wrapped up in the game. She won’t see you as a man—she’ll see you as one of the six to ten tricks she has to get through to make him happy. Leave your wallet out and she might not think twice about taking it. You are who you’re around, and that kind of environment breeds that kind of energy.

Yes, there are nice providers who have “managers.” But how many of their clients are repeat clients? Weekly clients?

You can’t build something real that way—and I believe that’s what this game is truly about.

Clients pick up on energy. When you’re intimate with someone, even in this setting, unspoken cues say far more than words ever could.

Think about it. What other job allows you to pick your own schedule, work as little or as much as you want, with an abundance of clients who will always need your service? Men’s balls get refilled every day. If your clients aren’t seeing you weekly, you’re doing something wrong.

You need to first give back to yourself. Love yourself. Be okay with what you’re doing. If you’re not, it will show in your work.

Once you’re happy with the person you see in the mirror, then you can begin creating a truly pleasurable experience for your clients. Not before.

Headspace is everything. If you’re not happy and stress-free, your clients aren’t getting their money’s worth.

I’m a professional. I do this for work. I’m college-educated and held a real profession for many years. I do this by choice because it gives me freedom—time and a lifestyle I couldn’t afford elsewhere. I have goals and dreams, and my clients allow me to accomplish them.

For that reason, I’m thankful. I genuinely appreciate every client I see. I show them a great time and stay present in the moment.

Pimps don’t see the value of each client who walks through the door. One client who sees you three times a week for an hour is $18,000 a year—from one client. Over five years, that’s $90,000.

For any provider to risk disrespecting or screwing over that man shows it’s not about her money—and not about the game.

Pimps don’t see clients that way. Many have no problem ripping a client off for a $100 deposit, when treating him right could’ve turned into a down payment on a house.

So when pimps think they can teach me the game—believe me—the game we’re playing is not the same.

Love Nina