screening matters.

Why Screening Matters (And Why I Don’t Bend)

Let me say this plainly: if you can’t follow instructions, you won’t make it past hello.

My screening process isn’t about being difficult—it’s about being intentional. I screen for safety, respect, and compatibility. The men I see are respectful, self-aware, and willing to identify themselves, not hide behind excuses or attitude. If that’s too much for someone, they’re not the right fit for me. Simple.

When a man reads my instructions carefully and follows them, it tells me everything I need to know: he respects my time, my boundaries, and my process. That alone makes him 10 times more attractive. If he can’t do that? It’s an instant no.

The truth is, how a man handles screening is usually how he’ll handle the session. Will he be calm? Confident? Honest? Or will he get defensive, pushy, or vague? This step filters out the ones who don’t know how to play by my rules—and that’s exactly what I need to feel safe and comfortable.

I ask for your info because I deserve to know who I’m letting into my space. Not because I’m paranoid.

A man who’s secure, respectful, and serious about seeing me will never have an issue verifying himself. In fact, most of them appreciate the structure. They know it protects me, and by extension, it protects them. Because when I feel safe, relaxed, and confident in who I’m seeing, everything flows better—for both of us.

So no, I won’t bend the rules.

If you can’t provide exactly what I ask for, that’s not a maybe. That’s a decline.